In a world where sexual satisfaction is often framed as knowing exactly what you want in bed, many women feel a nagging sense that something must be “wrong” with them if they can’t articulate their sexual desires.

Katherine Angel, in her book Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again, offers a different perspective: not knowing exactly what you want in bed isn’t a problem.

In fact it’s completely normal.

And simply acknowledging this and learning in to it could be exactly what’s needed to spark sexual desire. Let me explain….

Experiencing sexual desire that hits like lightning is wonderful when it happens. BUT… what happens if you don’t feel lightning?

Often, we assume something is wrong. We call it low libido. We call it dysfunction. We call it a problem to fix.

But what if the “problem” is actually in how we understand sexual desire?