Hi! I’m Laura. Mum, Sex Coach, dreamer and creator. But how did I get here?
I LOVE cheese, wine, my dog, and being outdoors- but here’s what I didn’t love for a long time… sex.
I woke up one day back in 2015 and realised that my sex drive had gone from zippy to completely extinguished. I felt flat, ashamed, and my relationship was suffering. Confused, frustrated, and desperate to understand why my desire had disappeared, I knew I had to get it back.
And so began a 10 year journey to try and rekindle my desire.
I started with what every self-respecting millennial would do and spent hours googling. I found some decent resources, but a LOT of quick fixes and articles that didn’t really seem to speak to my experience. Eating more oysters or taking a trip to Ann Summers didn’t feel the right way to get back my “vulva-voom”.
So I carried on the search and ended up in some really interesting spaces.
Over the past decade I’ve read SO many books, taken numerous courses, researched sexual desire, joined forums, talked to friends, explored tantra, taoism, sex magik, somatic practices, belly dancing… even drank sex coffee (yes, really).
And along the way, I had some major breakthroughs:
I realised I’d never been taught about my own sexuality or explored what brought me pleasure
My ideas of desire had been shaped based on how men experience it
This made me feel confused, pressured, and I felt broken because my desire for sex had faded.
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But- I discovered there was nothing wrong with me at all!
It was partly the pressure that I put on myself (and that I perceived or directly felt from others) to want sex a lot or for desire to just happen. And because I didn’t feel it this way, I’d assumed I was failing personally. I didn’t understand how society shapes our expectations of how desire should work.
I also learned so much about how desire actually works- which made me realise I didn’t have a low libido at all! My desire just needs different things to emerge.
Most interestingly, I realised that what caused my desire to dip (a stressful period of work and study) then wasn’t the thing that sustained it. Other factors had crept in (like how the sexual situation had affected my relationship and how I then felt about my body and pleasure).
From my research I found that the elements that influence sexual desire are often interconnected. So trying to use quick fix methods to increase desire don’t work, and neither do approaches that look at the factors that affect desire in silos.
And finally, I realised that experiencing low desire often makes perfect sense because it responds to what’s going on in our lives. If desire fades it is communicating something to us, rather than us being broken or faulty.
So to understand what is causing low desire, and to find a path back to increasing it, requires understanding what desire is, how it really works, and looking at the big picture to see desire as an interwoven system that interacts with other parts of our lives.
My experience has taught me that it is vital every woman has the tools, knowledge and power to understand themselves sexually. This then empowers us navigate the ups and downs of sexual desire with compassion, understanding and confidence on how to reignite it.
Now, I want to shout from the rooftops about what I learned, which are the BEST resources, tools, practises and frameworks on sexual desire from experts from a huge variety of backgrounds.
And helpfully, I’ve condensed this all into one place so that YOU can use this information to revolutionise your sex life too.
This isn’t about quick fixes, pills, or gimmicks—it’s about understanding desire, reclaiming confidence, and enjoying sex on your own terms.
If your sex drive isn’t where you’d like it to be and you’re wondering what on earth to do about it- or you’re curious to discover how to feel desire again- then this site is a rather good place to begin.
Because TBH… what I found was pretty amazing.
And I’m SO excited to share it with you.
Let’s do this!
Laura xx
