Hello you.
Looking for your sex drive?.
There’s something you should know first.
Welcome to Desired State.
You're here because something's changed. You don't want sex like you used to.
Maybe you WANT to want it, but you don’t know where to start….
I’d hazard a guess that you feel numb, disconnected from yourself, and/ or unsure what you want in bed…
Perhaps your relationship has been affected?
You dread bedtime with your partner because you’re worried it will lead to you having to reject them AGAIN and then the arguments start… again….
Or sex is the LAST thing you want to do, and you’re beginning to think there might be something wrong with you because your libido isn't where it used to be...
Or maybe it’s all of them all at once and more. But finally you’ve found the right place.
We help women who’ve lost their sexual desire find the right tools, knowledge + support to help them understand and (re)ignite their sexual spark.
Want to WANT sex again?
Here’s where I’d start…
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Hi, I’m Laura.
And I lost my sex drive too!
(*Sounds like the beginning of us introducing ourselves in some kind of rubbish secret support group- like a version of Fight Club where we’re just not interested in having any sex!)*
Ten years ago I woke up and realised I hadn’t wanted sex in a very long time, and I thought that I was broken.
I used to want sex, I used to enjoy it, but I felt so empty and disconnected that I wondered if I’d ever want sex again….
And this had a huge impact on my life. My confidence, my relationship, the connection to myself- even how alive I felt in general.
Over the last ten years, the journey to finding myself again (and a whole new sex education) has been life-changing. And now I want to shout from the rooftops about what I found…
So I created Desired State as a space to capture the best tools and expert advice that I found to help women reignite sexual desire- so that you can use it to transform your sex + love life too!
Think of us as your field guide to female sexual desire 🐾 helping you navigate the inevitable ups and downs of desire with compassion, understanding and confidence. I’m SO excited to share this with you.
If you’re here looking for your sex drive, there’s something you need to know first...
It’s very likely that almost everything you’ve been taught about sexual desire isn’t true.
It’s a bold claim but I stand by it!
Want to learn what’s really going on with your sex drive? Sign up to my Reclaiming Desire Course (did I mention it’s completely free?) and you can expect to:
Discover the true science behind how your sex drive actually works (spoiler alert- it’s not what you think!)
Gain clarity on what's causing your desire to dip (and why it makes perfect sense you’re not in the mood!)
And walk away with a practical pathway for how YOU can want sex again!
I’d love to walk you through what I found and how it can help you restore your sense of excitement and energy around sex- either again or for the very first time 🩷
My Philosophy
"Half of women have a low sex drive. So maybe the problem isn't women- it's our view of sexuality"- Sarah Barmak.
